Thursday, 23 August 2012

Are you the 'actual' you?

People fail to define themselves as not knowing who they actually are. What we tend to do is trying to follow what exactly others do and forcefully imitate the actions and thoughts,trying to be someone else and miserably fail in being good or happy about it. An eternal happiness is not attained and life goes meaningless. Most of the time, it happens unintentionally.

Thinking over the years studying psychology and reading the massive amount of books about life, I changed my mind about life; we should live our life very much meaningful.  I am in the process of achieving my self-actualization and how about you?

Self-actualization is a  concept  brought most fully to prominence in the famous Abraham Maslow's theory as the final level of psychological development.
"What a man can be, he must be. This need we may call self-actualization…It refers to the desire for self-fulfillment, namely, to the tendency for him to become actualized in what he is potentially. This tendency might be phrased as the desire to become more and more what one is, to become everything that one is capable of becoming."
Another term towards eternal happiness is also known as self-discovery. It brings to the meaning where people attempt to determine how they feel, personally, about spiritual issues or priorities,rather than following the opinions of family, friends, neighbourhood or peer pressure. It is very much about "finding oneself".

I think the surrounding created various kind of people in this world and all pretending to someone else they envy or admire .I was one of them, I was.
 ' I want to be as successful as Bill Gates'  ' I want to be a well-known surgeon like my uncle'  ' 'One day I will be as rich as my friend,X' and the line goes about how people want to be like someone else. 
They may struggle all the way up,if lucky, they reach at the top of the ladder and if they don't, they tumble down and break few bones. But does that really brings your own eternal happiness and contentment? 

All you have to do is trying every bit that life has to offer you, don't just stick to that very routine you do every single day. Trials brings the best out of you and you will be surprised to know that something better is there that makes you happy eternally.Once you have actually discovered yourself, you will stop and just lead that perfect life of your own. You and I will be authentically just ourselves!



  2. Are we able to look at them as our motivation goal and then achieve at the same place because we really want to be at the same place as them?

    1. Definitely we can use them as our motivational goals because we all have goals of what people have done and thought of but personally i feel,just them only as your motivational goals and don't change the way you are to turn into the other person :)